THE DOWN LOW OR DL LIFESTYLE CONTROVERSY:

Older Gay & Homosexual Men-Shoud Be Nurturers-Not Exploiters:

2007-04-22T07:47:00.000-07:00

April 22-2007:

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Older Gay & Homosexual Men Should Be NURTURERS-Not EXPLOITERS!

I recall as a younger Homosexual male in Guyana, most older Openly Gay Homosexual men were the ones who allowed us Younger Gay and Homosexual men into their homes for parties. Arranged partners (most of the times), at these parties, and was the venue for which most young or adolescent Gay and openly Gay men met, made friends, buddies, partners and lovers alike.

Yes, it was the Older Gay men who told us how to be careful with our lives, our sexual partners, our health, and our CHOICES in men too.
It was the older openly Gay men, who was able to afford apartments, or had their own homes for us to meet, have conversations about Gay life and life-styles, debate what was happening to some of us who were careless with out social, sexual, and other behaviors in the neighborhood.

It was mostly the Older Gay men who accompanied us to concerts, the theaters, and the bars to socialize, or drink.

There were some Older Gay men who exploited some of us for sex. And these were very few. And when we knew about any blatant exploitation, those of us who felt responsible enough to the community, told others about them, and cautioned us to be careful when dealing with such 'PERSONS."

These Older Gay men felt it was their responsibility to help us chart our lives as carefully as possible, so long as we gave them permission to do so! And I shall never forget those whom I had the privilege, of getting such irreplaceable mentoring, counseling, and advice, for as long as I live.

These experiences happened to me in the sixties mostly. Back then, I was an adolescent, full of life, raging hormones, and felt that the world was mine to conquer, and that the Gay life was the most beautiful thing that I had encountered. The Stonewall Gay-Drag Queens' riots, was something I never knew about until my advent to the USA in 1989.

All we had back then was the fear of social ridicule, stigma, verbal, and sometimes physical abuse from parents, siblings, and strangers alike. Those were our experiences back then, and still is, to a certain extent today within the Caribbean, Latin American & Central American countries.

However, Gay and Homosexual men here in the USA have had similar or different experiences, but at least they have been able to get laws enacted to protect our Civil and Human Rights. Legislation is still pending in most states to allow for Marriage/Civil unions legally.

While in others, these legislation have already been made legal. The political climate is almost favorable to Gay and Homosexual life here in the USA, except for a few states that still cling to their prejudices. And some Religious, and Social/Civic groups that feel it is their divine right to castigate Gays, Lesbians, Tansgender, and Bisexuals within this society.

But overall, Gays, Lesbians, Tansgender, and Bisexuals have a relatively peaceful co-existence within the mainstream of American society.
In certain Asiatic and Moslem countries, it still is the responsibility of Older Homosexual men (mostly undercover), to protect, advise, nurture, and even exploit Gay or Homosexuals there. Because of the extended family system, endemic to those cultures for centuries.

And any political actions for Civil, Human or other rights that Gays or Homosexuals need to Address, must be done very quietly, covertly, or with less public fanfare. For fear of Police brutality, Social castigation, Imprisonment, Beheading, or Death.

CONCLUSION:

I ache with disgust whenever I see Older and not so young openly Gay men verbally abuse younger Gay men, because of their openness, freedom, expressions, and sexual promiscuousness. Some of these Older Gay men have forgotten, or pretend to have forgotten when they were much younger, in demand, in shape, and vociferous too.

Yet they seem to feel that the Younger Openly Gay men (by and large), have it too good. Are not tolerant of them. And is ungrateful for all that the older Gays have fought and died for in the past. So that these freedoms that they the young, seem to take for granted would be here for posterity.

I also despise those older Gay men who are bitter because they are un-happy with their current situation. Lack of a meaningful relationships, Lack of Love, or even Companionship. And I believe it stems from a Careless, Carefree, and Reckless past, that has come back to haunt so many of us Gay or Homosexual men, as we get older in age.

Sometimes we forget the cosmic or spiritual law that binds all humans. Some call it KARMA, and it simply means the following:

* Whatever action or actions we do now, have their concomitant re-actions later.

* And everyone has to pay for his or her doings in this life, sooner or later. This is called KARMIC LAW:

So let as Older and Younger Gay and Homosexual men make a difference within our individual lives TODAY. For it is never too late to reform our minds, actions, attitudes, beliefs, impressions, and our souls!

Derryck S. Griffith.
Educator-Advocate & Blogger.

L..G. B & T. EXPO-2007!

2007-03-22T06:58:00.000-07:00

ATTENTION:

Attend the L.G.B & T EXPO-2007:

Saturday, March 24, 2007 11 am- 7 pm

Sunday, March 25, 2007 12 pm- 6 pm

Jacob K. Javits Convention Center

38th & 11th Aves New York City

For directions call: 1-212-216-2000

Do Not Enlist In The US Military I You Are GAy Or Homo!

2007-03-14T13:57:00.000-07:00

March 13-2007:

http://my.opera.com/BringBaka/

Time To Admit That You Like Men Or Women Sexually-Or Don't Ever Go Into The US Military!

It seems like many Gay or Homosexual men and women still don't get it, when it comes to Self-identification or Admitting that they are sexually attracted to the same gender. And they enlist in the military, only to wake up one morning and find some buddy or sister, scrutinizing them for watching them a certain way, or for seemingly getting a 'Boner' when in the shower, or in the Billet or Barrack room

So many Gay or Homosexual men and women find themselves trapped, and cannot get out the US military, because they fooled themselves about their true sexual orientation and desires. When fellow buddies are asked what they did during 'Liberty,' they cannot say anything believable. Some or most do not socialize with fellow comrades during off times or Liberty, because questions are asked (especially among the men), about one's conquests, drinking bouts,or fraternizing with fellow female inmates, or at the local Pub.

So those who choose to lie about their sexcapades, discovers soon afterwards that enquiries were made by their buddies from the women they alleged to have had sex or romped with. Only to be told the negative. Then they are pressed to explain themselves convincingly, without stuttering.

*Most cannot do so.

* Most are not believable.

*And this leads to suspicion, rumor spreading, taunting, and excessive prying into their social behavior.

That is how they are found out mostly by fellow comrades. Some take pride in outing his or her suspicious barrack buddy, roommate, or platoon buddy.

Conclusion:

Now why would anyone want to experience this kind of humiliation, embarrassment, and possibly dis-honorable discharge from the military if found to be Gay? Only FOOLS make those decisions! Or is it misguided patriotism that cause most Gay or closeted Homosexuals to enlist in the US military?

Whatever it is, I strongly advise that Homos and closeted Homos, should think very seriously before taking that step towards enlistment. Because once you are able to get in UNDETECTED, you and you guilt, and conscience, have to deal with that reality on a daily basis. And that trauma is never healthy for anyone, much less an enlisted man or women in a military that does not approve or desire their service!

Derryck S. Griffith.
Educator-Advocate & Blogger.
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UPDATE:

FROM: Gregory Phillips:
hnidao@yahoo.com

Date: Wed Mar 14, 2007 1:32 pm

Subject:

If You Are Gay Or Homo-Do Not Enlist Into The US Military!

I retired from the USN in year 2000 after 23 years of service.And I was gay from day one, served on ships and military hospitals. It's all about being smart, and keeping your business to yourself. Although, there are liers and cheats who suspected me and others were gay, and believe it or not, they lied about you to authorities in an attempt to expose you. Ya just gotta stand your ground and your sexuality, and your business.

While stationed on the USS AMERICA (CV-66) in 1983, the NIS (Naval Investigative Service) question crew members about suspected gays, and several times throughout my 3 year ship tour we were waken up without warning at ungodly hours (3AM), handcuffed, walked from your sleeping quarters through the passageway to the rear of the ship, embarrassed while being pushed pass other crew members.

The NIS would question us for hours, kinda like a Dick Tracy scene in the dark with a bright light in your face exactly like that. Unfortunately, many broke down and admitted their homosexuality. Me having been the strong one at 23 yrs old, many cried on my shoulders, one committed suicide and died.
Such NIS interrogation techniques are now illegal, and were actually illegal then.

Therefore, joining the military can be an okay thing if you desire. I would have retired after 30 years vice 23 years, but I acquired diabetes and retired early, and at an E-9 rank. The military will screw you if you let them, and I am sensitive to this type of subject matter. At the end of every month Uncle Sam sends me that good 'ole retirement check (18K/yr), and I thank him from the bottom of my bank account. And for all of those haters of Gays for no good reason,

Fuck you,

I did my time, and you couldn't do it if you tried.

Hnidao

ONLINE PREDATOR-CRIMINAL TRICKSTER & SCAMMER:

2007-03-10T16:24:00.000-08:00

A NEW IDENTITY Of ALEX COSSAKS:

From: Alexcossaks
[mailto: gomoboy@yahoo.com]

Date: Wed, 21 Feb 2007 22:25:47 +0300

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What Is The Best Thing About Being GAY?

2007-03-06T06:55:00.000-08:00

March 06-2007:

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What's The Best Thing About Being Gay?

Personally, I think this question should have be framed differently! For the following reasons:

* Is being Gay a feather in one's cap?

* Is being Gay something to shout about?

* And is being Gay, gives you some special recognition, a medal, or social status?

In the world that we all reside and have our being, Gays or Homosexuals are still being Killed, Harassed, Imprisoned, Be-headed, Raped, Hanged, and does not enjoy the very BASICS of Human and Civil rights, that most Heterosexuals take for granted. In Moslem and Islamic ruled countries, Gay or Homosexual men and women dare not openly say they are Gay, Lesbian, or Homosexual, because that could mean instant death for that unfortunate individual. So they 'by and large' say it very quietly among those they feel they can trust.

Do you know that in Palestine, the Police and other Security forces target suspected Gay or Homosexual men, lure them to certain places where they feel that they are meeting someone for a fling or trick safely. Then have them arrested, charged them for acting 'in their eyes' as prostitutes for sex with men.
Then there are some Security and Police elements who assign suspected or targeted individuals to SPY on suspected homosexuals, and report back to the authorities when they find someone or some suspect. These informers are called in local parlance, 'GOATS.'

In Nigeria, Homosexuals had a feeling recently when the national parliament there, ruled in favor of Gay or Homosexual rights. But getting that legislation enforced is another matter. You cannot force or legislate for people to love, accept, or treat you without prejudice. That is a mental attitude which Nigerians, and Jamaicans too, will have to make happen some time in the future.

But currently, homosexuals in those countries have to LAY VERY LOW for personal safety. We here in The USA have certain legal rights that we have fought for over the recent years. Some or most of these well deserved rights are threatened whenever a Republican controlled House and Senate is in office. So even here we are not too certain about our future rights as a community, within the mainstream of things.

So we are still in a very shaky position politically, socially in some states, and even physically at risk, in most states, when it comes to personal safety, Police brutality, employment discrimination, military hiring or recruitment, military discharge if found out, under a DUMB law that says, 'Don't Ask Don't Tell."

Derryck S. Griffith.
Educator-Advocate & Blogger.

Is It GAY Marriages Or Civil Unions?

2007-02-23T14:37:00.000-08:00

February 21-2007:

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Is It GAY Marriages Or Civil Unions?

I have heard arguments from all areas, (for and against) marriage between two men. Whether or not the word 'marriage' should be used, bothers me greatly.
The heterosexuals feel that word is SACRED to them, from a historical stand point. This is based on their religious beliefs primarily. So any violation of this understanding by any same gender loving, or same gender unions, must take this reality into consideration. If they are going to make any headway towards legislative action, or legal acceptance.
I would prefer that Gay men or Homosexuals who require this civil right, to use the words 'Civil Unions.' This to my mind will help pave the way for an explanation as to the pros and cons of this preferred union, to be made legally binding!

Black Homosexuals/Gay Men's Position:
Most DL Black, Latino, Gay, and Homosexual men seem not too keen on publicly advocating for any legalization of their bedroom business, as some usually frame it.
Firstly, Black American and Latino men do not (in great numbers) identify as Gay or Homosexual. If you ask most of these men how they categorize themselves socially, sexually, or as a community. Most will say openly 'Heterosexual,' and some quietly 'bisexual And advocating for legal Civil or Marriage legislation is never going to happen in large numbers within these two communities ever!
Black & Latino men are quite comfortable with having several women for show, having children with some of them, to show society that they are men or macho.
But actually living with another man, under the same roof as a couple, is unheard of for most of these men. And will never be contemplated! Most are quite comfortable living with their parents, relatives, or not being committed to any one man or woman. This is a cultural reality here in the USA.
Until we come to terms with this reality, Gay White men, will always be the ones that will spearhead any advocacy, for making Gay unions legal in America.
Derryck S. Griffith.
Educator-Advocate & Blogger.

SUGGESTED SOLUTION:
The proposal for Gay Marriages may never be totally accepted by mainstream American heterosexuals.
Why not use Gay UNIONS instead.
That term may be more likely to be accepted. It does not fly in the faces of the traditional concept of heterosexual arrangements/marriages.
I think that is the way to go with this issue.
Derryck

The New Breed Of Gay Men Today!

2007-02-11T16:37:00.000-08:00

The New Breed Of Gay Men!

It is very difficult for Older Gay men to accept this new breed of Down Low, not too obvious, and less Swishy Gay men is very real indeed. I have found over the years that most openly Gay men feel that their buddies or fellow Gay men MUST become obvious to all and sundry, to be truly one of them. Let me explain a bit further, some openly Gay men believe that all Gay men are BOTTOMS, and that all Gay men must identify with any type of Gay man, regardless of behavior, attitudes, sexual appeal, or lack of character and good taste.

So when this DL phenomena became public, and people started asking questions about it, and looking at those men who traditionally had associated with, hung-out with, looked like, was fashionable, and always dressed neatly, with the latest Threads, even though he never had a regular job. The red lights started flashing, and people started saying quietly to each other, remember Johnny from so and so place, who is always with them Gay boys. And remember David who visits Beryl's house, and is always at her Gay parties, even though he always say that he is not Gay. So what is the big deal now?
The Big Deal came about when HIV became an obvious problem and concern with Heterosexual Black women. Many of whom got the virus from their husbands, male friends, boy friends, and lovers, who claimed to be faithful, not into male sexual activities. But rumor says that many of these same men are sleeping with men. So this became a major concern with heterosexual women. So when this other DL brother sat on Opra Winfry talk show, and spill the beans to her about the DL life and life style.
All Hell Broke Loose!

Death threats were sent him, major DL brothers became paranoid about the repercussions of that public revelation. And the DL earthquake began to roar. However, in time, the women became more pro-active in their actions. They started attending HIV prevention workshops, speaking out against DL men who are married and sleeping with men too. And that was the beginning of the DL fiasco, and subsequent openness. But not all DL men are prepared to come clean openly. Not all DL men feel that they should. And most DL men will tell you privately, that to be quiet about their business, is what DL is all about.
Anytime a DL man or woman come into the open with their bedroom business, they are not REAL or true to the DL concept of that life style. And they would be considered traitors, and flammers!
Derryck S. Griffith.
Educator-Advocate & Blogger.

Gay Relations Are In Serious Trouble!

2007-02-05T16:24:00.000-08:00

February 05-2007:

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Gay Relations Are In Serious Trouble!

The way you respond or relate to other Gay or Homosexual men and women, regardless of whether you like them physically or not. Say a lot about who, what, and the type of character you truly are.
Let me clarify this further:
Humans are expected to relate to each other civilly, in any civilized society or culture. And this goes for Gay, Homosexual, Lesbian, or Heterosexual people. As humans in a civilized society or setting, there are certain mores or behaviors that one is expected to observe, like courtesy, good manners, privacy, respect for a person's space, personal privacy, and property. When individuals fail to observe or respect these values, they come across to other people as SAVAGES, BARBARIANS, and CRUDISH.

I have found in so many circumstances that I had reason to operate in, or be a part of, e.g. Groups, Parties, or other social settings. Where Gay men cannot behave socially, cannot respond to a social overture, or solicitation without some form of Savage Rebuff, Foul Language, or basically Rudeness. Because in most cases the other person does not fit their view of what is desired physically.
He may not have the preconcieved Age, Beauty, Muscular Features, Abs, Ethnicity, Skin Color, Car, Clothes, Employment, or Education. So he or she is treated rudely, snubbed, dismissed, or simply cussed out, for showing some desire for this Self-centered Egotistical, and Vane individual's perception of himself or herself!

Detriments To Establishing Healthy Relationships:

All of the above flaws are contributing factors that prevent stable, good, healthy, or positive relationship building, or relationship possibilities. Some Gay men and women feel that because they are young in age, they have the right to dismiss those Gay men who are older, physically unfit, HIV positive, Obese, not the preferred Ethnic gender, or Cultural background. Some Gay men actually say they are in search of that 'Perfect male,' for friendship or love!
Well, I have news for those who feel that way. The PERFECT MALE or FEMALE, does not exist. And if you find one that you think is perfect for you, he may not find you desirable or perfect for him. Just keep that in mind when you seek perfection!

Responding To Personal Solicitations:

If someone tries to make friends with you, online, at a party, at the Mall, at the theatre, or any social setting. And he/she may not be physically appealing to you, just let him or her know that he or she does not physically appeal to you. This can be done in a civil manner, without being insulting. Not everyone who hits of you, will be appealing to you. But that does not give you the right to be insulting, rude, or dismissive. I have told many Gay men (from all age groups), that they do not physically appeal to me sexually. But if they feel that making friends would be a desired alternative, then that would not be a problem.
Now, that may not be a desire of yours, but at least, they deserve some explanation or response to their solicitation. Some Gay men are very CRUDE, Obnoxious, and downright Perverse when they hit on you. But even in that situation, you should show intelligence when responding, and NEVER forget civility! After all, you would feel terribly offended if someone told you after trying to make friends, that he is not looking for A NIGGA, A BLACK, A WHITE BOY, A FAT HOMO, A FEMME HOMO, Or a SISSY HOMO either!

Good Luck-And Good Hunting Brothers!

Derryck S. Griffith.
Educator-Advocate & Blogger.
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African Men Must Circumcise Or Else!

2006-12-13T19:23:00.000-08:00

December 13-2006:

AFRICAN Men-Must Circumcise Or Else!

With the spread of HIV and malaria, on the continent of Africa. And the difficulty to control or curb the spread of both maladies. African men are now being told to circumcise or else!

With Uganda in the forefront, with their policy of "Condom usage, Being Faithful to one partner, & No Grazing outside of marriage, which seem to have made a difference in arresting the spread of HIV in that state. Now, this new trial on African men, reported by The BBC today, seem to suggest that HIV is more easily transmitted via un-circumcised men. The authorities who made this declaration claims that they are 50% certain that with circumcism of all African men, the spread of HIV will be curtailed.

Isn't this the most brazen declaration that was ever made on any pandemic, much less HIV?
HIV has been spreading among American males, who are by and large predominantly circumcised. This is found mostly among Caucasian and Black American males. Yet the spread of HIV is still rampant among Blacks and Latinos currently in America. Ever since the discovery of HIV among men firstly.
This virus had not discriminated between those who are circumcised or not. So why does any rational thinking person would assume that it would for African men?

And what about the following diseases?
* Chlamydia:
* Herpes:
* Gonorrhea:
* Syphilis:
This to my mind is yet another ploy to coerce those African states or governments, who need HIV medication and technical help from the west, to help curb this deadly virus among them. And they are being dictated to once more, as to how, where, and who, must comply with these dictates, in order to qualify for assistance.

FURTHERMORE:

Regardless of where circumcism has been practised. I still maintain that such procedures must never be done in childhood or at childbirth. This is another form of 'mutilation.' And in infancy, that child has no say on the matter.
If adults (for reasons best known to themselves), feel they have to be circumcised, then that will be their choice, as ADULTS.
But do not use relgion, some scientific findings, or any other method, to COERCE people into complying with a procedure of self-mutilation, becsuse some persons in the scientific or political communities think, that is the way to prevent some form or infection.

Derryck S. Griffith.
Educator-Advocate & Blogger.
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Time To Defend Yourself Gay Men-Or Die!

2006-10-21T06:48:00.000-07:00

October 21-2006:

Stand & Fight Brothers-Defend Yourself Or Continue To Die!

Preface:
Too often I hear and read about Gay men being attacked physically on the streets in the USA, beaten up, or killed. The attackers are mostly teens or young adolescents, who attack us in groups of three to five individuals, with Base-Ball bats, Sticks, Metal implements, or with their Bare hands. This phenomenon has been the reality in this country for too long.

So it is now our time to defend ourselves IN A REAL WAY!

Demonstrations:

There have been demonstrations, and more demonstrations in the streets of this country against "Gay Bashing," as it is referred or described. But the results or cessation of these abuses are on the increase in most cities still. Some states have enacted legislation to penalize the convicted of such HATE crimes with imprisonment and fines. But this legal deterrent has not worked either.

What & Who indulges in Gay Bashing?

Gay Bashing is both Vocal and Physical. This is also done by Gay and Bisexual men, who feel some sort of Self-hate towards themselves or other Gay men for various reasons. Mostly psychological. So this form of giving such HATRED expression is indulged in.

Heterosexuals or presumed heterosexual men and women also indulge in Bashing Homosexuals, when they have an AXE to grind personally with Homosexuality, and Homosexuals!

The Time To Physically Act Has Come:

They are several ways to defend oneself when one is attacked by these THUGS on the streets, and I will identify some of them!

* Gay Bashers attack Gay men or presumed Gay men in groups of four to six individuals. Mostly young men.

* Some Gay men feel that if they run away from this situation, they will be safe. But you are DEAD WRONG!

* If you run away when attacked, you will be pursued, and when caught, will be seriously injured, or killed. That is A FACT.

* My suggestion to you here is simply this.

* Assess the situation as these Thugs are approaching you to strike.

* Watch closely for the one that you feel you could hold on to first, or be able to wrestle with.

* Then GRAB that one, try to SINK your TEETH in his NECK or FACE.

* Do not release it until he is screaming for you to stop, and the BLOOD is spewing out from his face or neck.

* By this time, the others will get scared and start to run away from the scene. Spilling BLOOD has that effect on most people. Even THUGS.

* This is the surest way to show some form of bravery or self defense against your attackers, if you are un-armed, or without some form of self defense knowledge, skills, or weapon.

We Are Sending A Message:

When Gay men begin to stand and fight PHYSICALLY, regardless of the ODDS, then the society at large will realize that we are not all SISSIES, or FRIGHTENED SCREAMING MIMIES. But we know how to defend ourselves too.

WITHOUT A FIGHT-THERE CAN BE NO VICTORY:

Derryck S. Griffith.
Educator-Advocate & Blogger.

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I Am As Good As You=GAY:

2006-01-24T10:24:00.000-08:00

I Am GOOD AS YOU!

Not because someone you loved didn't love you back:

Not because your Mom does not want you around anymore:

Not because some girl or boyfriend at high school or college you shared secrets with, found out that you are GAY.

And is not speaking to you anymore, means that the end is near for you or all GAYS:

Not because your church sisters and brothers say that all GAYS will be sent to hell, but forgot that GOD made Gays too.

So let them go ask GOD why?

Remember my brothers, that you are as good as any human being:

You are as GOOD as them, and possibly even Better:

So Go out there and help us make a difference through vocalizing POSITIVE thoughts about ourselves and our community.

Tell your political representatives to support our issues OR ELSE:

Let them know that our votes is what helped put them where they are.

So if they do not support our issues, we will let our community know who they are, and advocate for non-support for them being re-elected!

That is What We Have To Do, Because we are as Good As Them!

Om Shanti.
Derryck.
GAY:

Gay Lifestyle & Happiness:

2005-10-23T15:41:00.000-07:00

Comment:
There is little or no happiness in the Gay life style!
Someone responded to my article on The Meaning Of Homosexuality recently. They had a lot to say about the historical perceptions of Gay sex, and the sex act, that is so emphasized in this lifestyle.
They also felt that Gay or Homosexual life is a dead end in itself. Why? Because there is no children or offspring to take care of us when we get old, or infirm. Or because of the emphasis on YOUTH, most of us become jaded, miserable, anxious, bitter, and lonely, when we start losing our physical looks, beauty, shape, and teeth.
This fear is endemic in most Gay or Homosexual men (according to this writer), and joining the Gym is another way we try to keep or maintain our looks or attraction to other men.
This paranoia (says he/she), affects us all, and there is no end in sight, because we all eventually have to gave way to the young, the beautiful, and fresh Gay men, that is forever coming on board in the life.
He/she also said that society does not hate homosexuality, what they challenge is our minority life style, privileges, preferences, and attitudes, that conflict with majority values.
And because of this minority position, it will always be a bone of contention for the majority.
* I have to admit that this point of view I cannot accept! Homosexual life was lived in most cultures hitherto Christianity & Islam. With the advent of Christianity & Islam, with it's own peculiar values, morals, and prescriptions about how their followers should live, and what is right and wrong morally.
Homosexuals took the brunt of this bashing, because we refuse to confirm to this morality, and lifestyle that Christianity purports.
Om Shanti.
Derryck.
PS: Your comments are welcomed!

LOVE-LUST & LIES:

2005-07-04T19:39:00.000-07:00

July 04-2005:

LOVE-LUST & LIES:

There is a radio personality name Michael Basden from kissfm.com. He conducts a regular show on air called, "Love-Lust & Lies." I have listened to this program for some time now, and he deals primarily with heterosexual men, women and their Down Low partners or husbands.

He contends that he asked several women if there is any Straight Men or Real men left today. And he claimed that they said for every ten men , one is heterosexual and the others are either Gay or Bisexuals living on the Down low, unknowingly to their partners in the USA.

So the question he puts to his audiences are the following:

* How do you women know if your partner or husband is on The Down Low?

Is there any signs to look for? for e.g.,

* Swisshy behavior:

* Secretive behavior all of a sudden:

* Hanging out to much with his male friends:

* Always calling his buddy of male friend/s anytime during the day or night to talk:

* Holding his wife or female partner differently, softly, or with a tender touch that was not like him:

* Going to Gay clubs to hang with his friends:

* Or hanging with Gay or known Homosexuals buddies regularly:

Most of the women responded by saying, most of the above, or all of the above, are indications that he is bisexual and indulging in DL activities possibly.

Definition of Homosexual:A male or female who is sexually attracted to his or her own gender. He/she may or may not act upon those desires, but the desire for such activity is enough to be biologically homosexual.

And if I am allowed to quote from the Christian Bible, for those self-righteous Pastors, Priests, Born-again Christians, Moslems, and Anti homosexuals.

Jesus said, "once you have thought it, you have done it." That means once you indulge in the fantasy or mental desire for sexual activity with someone of the same gender, you are homosexual/lesbian.

Because thinking about something, is the first step you take before putting your thoughts into action, regardless of whether you act upon those thoughts immediately, next month, next week, next year, or next ten years. You have already done it mentally!

Therefore, for those men who feel that sucking a dick for money: Experimenting with Homo Sex for a while, under some intoxicant: Sticking a Man in the Anus for pleasure, money or kicks: Or indulging in sexual activities with fellow males or females, and hiding under the assumption that you are STRAIGHT, or under religious cover, or under guilt, or under Denial, or under Fear. Is cowardly, hypocritical, and does not make you Straight. In fact you are biologically Gay or Homosexual..

Whatever category you self-identify with, or prefer to identify with is a personal choice. So fellas, you are not fooling anyone but yourself. And when a fool begins to believe in his own pretenses, then he/she is mentally hopeless, paranoic, and requires professional help!

Om Shanti.Derryck.

What It Is To Be Down Low:

2005-05-28T15:37:00.000-07:00

What Is It To Be Down Low?

My Definition:
A person who ellects to be on the Down Low, is trying to protect him/herself from being discovered indulging in activities (sexual in nature), that he would not like his/her family, relatives, friends or peers to become aware of!

With that definition in mind, let us explore all or most of the different concepts of being Down low.

a. Some Men & Women who are having sexual relationships or affairs outside of a relationship or marriage.

b. Some men who prefer that their spouse or woman does not get wind that they are Bisexual, and is indulging in sexual activities with men.

c. Some men who are Bi-sexual in nature, but refuses to accept it as a biological fact with them. Some are married with children, or in a relationship/s with women. But still crave the company of men sexually, and seek it out whenever they can quietly.

d. Some men, (though few in numbers), who have taken the responsibility upon themselves to notify their sexual partner, wife, woman or mate, that they are Bi-sexual, and is also having sexual affairs with a man or with other men.
Now these are just a few categories of the Down Low concept.

But it is not hard and fast in nature. I have found in my enquiries, that if you ask fifty individuals who admits that they are living on the Down low, to give their perspective about the life. You will get as many answers as the number of persons asked!

This Life Style is still evolving and re-inventing itself. In time I guess it will be properly understood for what it is. Until then, don't hold your breadth.

Om Shanti.
Derryck.

We defy The Gay Stereotypes:

2005-05-28T15:30:00.000-07:00

We Defy Gay Stereotypical Behavior!

Today I read an article which was researched by Frank Leon Robert's of San Francisco Chronicle on 'Sexual Stereotypes.' It dealt primarily with the current expression/term Down Low life! This article (to my mind) has thrown some more light on the Down Low activities in the Afro- Latino American Sub-culture. He stressed that most Men who identify as Down Low are quite comfortable with this position/attitude.

They will take great pains to secure and protect this new identity from their families-co-workers-church comrades & friends (outside the life). He also stated that the Down Low sexuall activities within the Male Communities Of Color is a Show Of Defiance to The White Gay community that we (Blacks) do not concur or condone your type & expression of Sexual Identity or preference!

We as a community have different cultural experiences peculiar to ourselves, which prevents us from embracing your social position openly.

For example;
*A Black or Latino male who cannot provide the means of livelihood for his family does not get the respect as a man should within his community.

*A Black or latino male who has little or no education; has no job (permanent or temporary), cannot make definite plans for raising a family or saving for his child's college education.

*A Black or Latino male who is not married after around 25 years of age; is not seen regularly with women; is not perceived as a womanizer within his community, cannot expect to get the same social acceptance from his peers as the White male could.

*And finally; historically the black male was never allowed to manage his own house, because invariably his family was either on 'Welfare,' he was in 'Prison,' or hounded by the Child Support Court for accrued payments. Which invariably he could not provide (regularly), even if he wanted to!

These are just some of the things which have impacted the Heterosexual, & Bisexual Community, within the Black & Latino Communities of Color. They, by and large feel that this position of "Down low" is theirs to keep, to own, because it gives them the feeling of FREEDOM from Stereotypes hitherto, seen as BAD or Non-Black!

Peace!
Derryck S. Griffith.
Political Educator & Advocate.
Yahoo IM: mimbari2003

Outing a Down Low brotha:

2005-05-28T15:25:00.000-07:00

February 08-2005:

Outing Down Low brothers!

Someone said in a response earlier that they would OUT a DL brotha if he knows the woman, or the woman is a sister of his. He gave several reasons for this, but I didn't copy them. However, I believe that when someone maliciously OUTS a brotha who is DL, because of a personal grudge or self-righteous indignation, then that person is MOST DISPICABLE, and should be treated with the utmost contempt!

It is not anyone business to OUT a brotha, because they feel that he should openly declare his undercover sexual activities. That is like doing what the White Gay community did in the eighties to several public personalities, because they felt that it was necessary, for ROLE MODEL or visibility purposes.

This to my mind is presumptuous, an infringement on one's privacy, and is downright EVIL.

Om Shanti.
Derryck.

Meeting men on The DL:

2005-05-28T15:21:00.000-07:00

Meeting Men on the DL:

Welcome to the real world. Being on The Down low is not more difficult to meet a mate or sex partner, than those who are open with their sexuality or sexual preferences. I think what matters, is that you as an individual should be prepared to express yourself, your needs and desires, with a potential mate (at the outset), before any further communication.

This helps to prevent and control lots of mis-understandings about you and your intentions. I find that being able to say EXACTLY what you need or want, will send the signal to the other person that you are self-assured and confident.
Mind you, this approach can sometimes bring you quite a lot of FLAK from those that lack self-confidence. But you have to hold your ground.

And in time they will realize that you are FOR REAL.

Peace!
Derryck.
Yahoo IM: mimbari2003

How Do You Approach A Suspect DL Brotha In A Bar Or Club?

2005-05-28T15:14:00.000-07:00

Question:
How Do You Approach A Suspect DL Brotha In A Bar or Club?

This question I have often found myself asking, and to date I have not been able to conclude. From past experiences clubbing and bar hopping, I have found some very interesting brothas, some very friendly, very obvious in their sexuality and preferences. But when I try (more often than not), to swing the conversation to sex or sexual preferences, I get the impression that an invisible barrier has suddenly been erected.

Most of them do not speak from a personal frame of reference, they speak around the discussion, saying things like the following: I know a brotha who likes men, and who is always checking me out. But he never actually came forward with an approach. I also know a brotha who I think is Gay or bisexual on the side. He mixes with women, but somehow, something tells me that he likes men sexually. But he plays the game very slick, and I cannot really tell what is his action.
Others say, I don't mind kicking it with a brotha, if he is gonna pay me a heck of a lot of money.

Then you get the odd brotha who allows himself to get highly inebriated, then he approaches you like he is totally drunk, and asks you what ya doing? And if you are up to some fun or whatever. All the time he is looking the other way, or pretending to be matter-of-fact! So, these are the mixed signals you get in clubs or bars most of the time. And you ask yourself, if you will ever get a positive signal from any of these brothas anytime soon.

I can also recall standing in a corner at bar some time ago. I felt a hand touch me twice on the Butt, and when I looked around the suspect looked the other way. On the third time when he touched me I asked him, 'do you want to ask me something bra,.' he got visibly agitated or angry, and pushed me to the wall. I looked at him in anger and amazement, then I told the bouncer what had happened, and he was asked to leave the bar.

He left immediately with some help from the bouncer, making all kinds of
accusations and shouting faggots in the house! So my friends, under these circumstances, how or when is it ripe to approach a Brotha in a Bar, Club, or Public place, when there is no clear signal that one can actually feel is right for an approach?

Peace!
Derryck.

Openly Gay man's desire for a fling with a DL brother:

2005-05-28T15:06:00.000-07:00

TOPIC:
An Openly Gay Man's Desire For A Fling With A DL Brotha:

This is an age old story that all homosexuals have. Most of us Gay or Bisexual brothers at some point in time, or even currently, have seen and have lusted for a supposedly straight man. I can speak for myself ever since I was a teenager. This crush I experienced for some of my Primary School male teachers. Even in the army, I had crushes for some of my buddies.

This desire does not discriminate between who is seemingly open or who is not. Desire has no bounds sexually. What we do as Gay or Bisexual men, is try to confirm to our own kind. And this can limit us greatly in terms of good prospects, or love relationships.
Have you ever wondered why some married heterosexual men have a woman on the side along with his spouse? Whom he feels very dearly for, and provides for as much as he can.

These kinds of relationships exist long before you or I became a reality, and will continue for as long as humans exists on this planet.
So a Down Low or secretive homosexual or bisexual, is no different from the open and obvious in desire. It just happens that a lot of "Fem Gay men" would prefer men who is not as fem looking or behaving as they are.and that is a fact!

Om Shanti.
Derryck.
Yahoo IM : mimbari2003