How Do You Approach A Suspect DL Brotha In A Bar Or Club?

Question:
How Do You Approach A Suspect DL Brotha In A Bar or Club?

This question I have often found myself asking, and to date I have not been able to conclude. From past experiences clubbing and bar hopping, I have found some very interesting brothas, some very friendly, very obvious in their sexuality and preferences. But when I try (more often than not), to swing the conversation to sex or sexual preferences, I get the impression that an invisible barrier has suddenly been erected.

Most of them do not speak from a personal frame of reference, they speak around the discussion, saying things like the following: I know a brotha who likes men, and who is always checking me out. But he never actually came forward with an approach. I also know a brotha who I think is Gay or bisexual on the side. He mixes with women, but somehow, something tells me that he likes men sexually. But he plays the game very slick, and I cannot really tell what is his action.
Others say, I don't mind kicking it with a brotha, if he is gonna pay me a heck of a lot of money.

Then you get the odd brotha who allows himself to get highly inebriated, then he approaches you like he is totally drunk, and asks you what ya doing? And if you are up to some fun or whatever. All the time he is looking the other way, or pretending to be matter-of-fact! So, these are the mixed signals you get in clubs or bars most of the time. And you ask yourself, if you will ever get a positive signal from any of these brothas anytime soon.

I can also recall standing in a corner at bar some time ago. I felt a hand touch me twice on the Butt, and when I looked around the suspect looked the other way. On the third time when he touched me I asked him, 'do you want to ask me something bra,.' he got visibly agitated or angry, and pushed me to the wall. I looked at him in anger and amazement, then I told the bouncer what had happened, and he was asked to leave the bar.

He left immediately with some help from the bouncer, making all kinds of
accusations and shouting faggots in the house! So my friends, under these circumstances, how or when is it ripe to approach a Brotha in a Bar, Club, or Public place, when there is no clear signal that one can actually feel is right for an approach?

Peace!
Derryck.