Meeting men on The DL:

Meeting Men on the DL:

Welcome to the real world. Being on The Down low is not more difficult to meet a mate or sex partner, than those who are open with their sexuality or sexual preferences. I think what matters, is that you as an individual should be prepared to express yourself, your needs and desires, with a potential mate (at the outset), before any further communication.

This helps to prevent and control lots of mis-understandings about you and your intentions. I find that being able to say EXACTLY what you need or want, will send the signal to the other person that you are self-assured and confident.
Mind you, this approach can sometimes bring you quite a lot of FLAK from those that lack self-confidence. But you have to hold your ground.

And in time they will realize that you are FOR REAL.

Peace!
Derryck.
Yahoo IM: mimbari2003